Thursday, November 7, 2013

Passages for beginning of ceremony Gathering Words, Charge to Couple, Vows, Promises

Gatherine words 1:
 Friends and family of the bride and groom , welcome and thank you for being here on this important day.  We are gathered together to celebrate the very special love between ____ and _____ by joining them in marriage. 
All of us need and desire to love and to be loved.  And the highest form of love between two people is within a monogamous, committed relationship. ____ and ______, your marriage today is the public and legal joining of your souls that have already been united as one in your hearts.  Marriage will allow you a new environment to share your lives together, standing together to face life and the world hand-in-hand.
Marriage is going to expand you as individuals, define you as a couple, and deepen your love for one another. To be successful, you will need strength, courage, patience and a really good sense of humor.
So, let your marriage be a time of waking each morning and falling in love with each other all over again.
___________________________________________________________________________________________ 
Gathering Words 2
Good evening, welcome to this most important moment in the lives of this couple.  We invite you to leave behind the worries and concerns of everyday life and join us in the celebration of their marriage.
This is an opportunity for us to share not only in the joy of _____and _____love but also to reaffirm and appreciate the love and the friendship we experience in our own lives.  May we all celebrate by being fully present during our short time together. _____and _____ have chosen this setting in which to be married because it provides an appropriate backdrop for the public affirmation of their love. _____ and _____ view marriage as a coming together at all levels of being-mind, body and spirit.  A marital commitment includes the willingness to be open and vulnerable, and the courage to take risks. Marriage is a conscious act of will.  To remain in marriage we must continually renew our will to be married.  Marital partners accept the challenges that living together in love offer.  They decide that they will face the fears that are necessary part of establishing and nurturing an intimate relationship.  And you _____and _____ have made the commitment to create and recreate this conscious partnership.
Those of us who are married or in relationships may take this moment to consciously reaffirm our commitment to our partners and ourselves. Marriage  consists  of entrusting our deepest selves into the loving care of another.  It is a public and legal act to be sure.  It is also an emotional and spiritual act.  The spiritual aspect of marriage must be embraced openly, seriously, and completely for the marriage to endure. _____ AND _____ commit themselves today to each other in sacred trust.  They promise to embrace conflict as well as peace; to work as well as play; to struggle as well as coast; to give as well as receive; and to be with, stay with, and move toward one another
Charge to couple 1
____and _____, I counsel you, as husband and wife, to always give respect to one another even when you disagree, to bear with each other’s weaknesses, to comfort each other in times of trouble or sorrow, to work with generous hearts to provide for the material needs of each other and the household, and to help one another experience spiritual, mental, emotional and physical comfort.
Charge to couple 2
_____ and _____, as you stand here today, I remind you of the serious nature of the relationship you are about to enter.  Marriage is the voluntary and full commitment of two consenting adults to love each other for a lifetime.
For a marriage to be successful, you must each be loyal to each other, stand firm in your defense of each other and to be supportive of one another’s life goals and dreams.  It is a solemn, binding, yet challenging relationship.
Charge to couple 4 
___ and____ by coming here today, you have now taken the initial step in what hopefully will be a wonderful and lasting life together. Understand, that a union between two people takes work.  Just as Rome was not built in a day, neither is a relationship ever complete.  It needs constant nurturing. A good marriage is one that fosters respect, a devoted love, and a willingness to make sacrifices for each other. These are the foundation blocks of a newly formed union.  Symbolically you have been brought together as one, yet are still two separate entities with unique ideas, talents, and ways of being.  Respect and value those differences, and your relationship will flourish.


Vows 2
Please repeat after me:
I, ___, take you, ____, to be my wife.
I, ____, take you, _____, to be my husband.
To share all that I am and all that I have, for all time to come.  And I promise to do all in my power to keep my love as deep and as strong as it is today.
Vows 3 
This wedding ceremony is the public recognition of a commitment that ____and _____ have already made privately in their hearts.  But it’s also their commitment to all of you who know and love them. By inviting you to bear witness to their vows this day, they have chosen to take you with them on the first step of their journey into marriage.
I, _____, take you _____ to be my wife.
I, _____, take you _____ to be my husband.
Your love is my anchor. Your trust is my strength. I will give you all my love from now until eternity ends. You make my life complete.
Vows 4
___AND ___KNOW THAT THIS WEDDING IS A CELEBRATION OF THE MARRIAGE THAT HAS ALREADY OCCURRED IN THEIR HEARTS, A MARRIAGE THAT WILL GROW NOT WITHOUT CHALLENGE AND ADVERSITY, BUT WITH PATIENCE, LOVE AND THE BELIEF THAT THEY HAVE CHOSEN WISELY IN CHOOSING EACH OTHER.

____PLEASE REPEAT AFTER ME

_____ ,AS YOUR HUSBAND, I PROMISE TO CARE FOR YOU, TRUST YOUR LOVE BE RESPONSIVE TO YOUR NEEDS, COMMUNICATE MY FEELINGS, AND BEHAVE IN A WAY THAT SHOWS MY LOVE AND RESPECT. I SAY THESE THINGS BECAUSE I LOVE YOU AND WANT TO LIVE OUT THE DAYS OF MY LIFE WITH YOU.

_____PLEASE REPEAT AFTER ME

_____, AS YOUR WIFE, I PROMISE TO CARE FOR YOU, TRUST YOUR LOVE BE RESPONSIVE TO YOUR NEEDS, COMMUNICATE MY FEELINGS, AND BEHAVE IN A WAY THAT SHOWS MY LOVE AND RESPECT. I SAY THESE THINGS BECAUSE I LOVE YOU AND WANT TO LIVE OUT THE DAYS OF MY LIFE WITH YOU.

Vows 5 
I ___________ TAKE YOU ________ TO BE MY WIFE. I PROMISE TO BE TRUE TO YOU ALWAYS, IN SICKNESS AND IN HEALTH, IN POVERTY OR WEALTH, IN MY THOUGHTS AND IN MY SPEAKING. I WILL BE YOUR DEAREST FRIEND, YOUR LOVER, AND THE FATHER OF YOUR CHILDREN. WITH THESE VOWS, I COMMIT MYSELF TO YOU.

I _________TAKE YOU________ TO BE MY HUSBAND. I PROMISE TO BE TRUE TO YOU ALWAYS, IN SICKNESS AND IN HEALTH, IN POVERTY OR WEALTH, IN MY THOUGHTS AND IN MY SPEAKING. I WILL BE YOUR DEAREST FRIEND, YOUR LOVER, AND THE MOTHER OF YOUR CHILDREN. WITH THESE VOWS, I COMMIT MYSELF TO YOU.


Vows 6



________ PLEASE REPEAT AFTER ME:

TODAY, I GIVE MYSELF TO YOU AND ASK FOR YOUR TOMORROWS.
I PROMISE TO LOVE YOU MORE THAN ANYONE ELSE CAN;
TO GIVE YOU MY STRENGTH AND ASK FOR YOURS IN RETURN.
TO HELP YOU IN GOOD TIMES AND IN BAD.
I GIVE YOU ALL MY TRUST AND ASK YOU TO ACCEPT ME AS YOUR HUSBAND.

_______PLEASE REPEAT AFTER ME:


TODAY, I GIVE MYSELF TO YOU AND ASK FOR YOUR TOMORROWS.
I PROMISE TO LOVE YOU MORE THAN ANYONE ELSE CAN;
TO GIVE YOU MY STRENGTH AND ASK FOR YOURS IN RETURN.
TO HELP YOU IN GOOD TIMES AND IN BAD.
I GIVE YOU ALL MY TRUST AND ASK YOU TO ACCEPT ME AS YOUR WIFE.

Promises 3
Do you, ____, welcome _____ as your wife, offering her your love and encouragement, your trust and respect, as together you create your future?


Do you, _____, welcome _____ as your husband, offering him your love and encouragement, your trust and respect, as together you create your future?
Promises 4
We are here today, to celebrate the love, which ____ and ___ have for each other, and to give social recognition to their decision to commit their lives and accept each other totally.

Do you ___ take____ to be your lawfully wedded wife, to share your life openly, standing with her in sickness and in health, in joy and in sorrow, in hardship and in ease, to cherish and love forever more?

Do you ____ take____, to be your lawfully wedded husband, to share your life openly, standing with him in sickness and in health, in joy and in sorrow, in hardship and in ease, to cherish and love forever more?
Traditional Promises 
___As you place this ring on ___________ finger please answer with I do
Do you____take___to be your lawfully wedding wife? From this day forward to have and to hold, for richer and for poorer, in sickness and in health to love and to cherish til death do you part:

___As you place this ring on ___________ finger please answer with I do
Do you____take___to be your lawfully wedding wife? From this day forward to have and to hold, for richer and for poorer, in sickness and in health to love and to cherish til death do you part
I Do






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